A Wedding Absentee
I had a vivid dream of attending wedding of my close friend from high school, Chi-yao, last night. It’s one of those dreams where you can’t really separate dream from reality even after waking up. The conversations, and witty replies we had at each other were just the kind of things we’d say to each other if it actually happened.
The funny thing is, I have been a wedding absentee my most of my adult life — It’s the result of circumstances. Come to think of it, my absence in weddings is the result of ONE constant circumstance that I’ve been dealing with all my adult life — immigration status.
I missed my college best friend, Brian’s, wedding in Austria because my OPT was expiring and was waiting for SCAD to get me a work visa. At the time, I was advised not to travel because I may not get back into the U.S. if the visa is not resolved. That really aggregated me.
I also missed most of my high school friends’ weddings because most of them were held in Taiwan when I simply wasn’t able to attend them.
I missed another good friend’s wedding in South Carolina while working in NYC because of weather conditions. Stupid weather.
Chi-yao is getting married in Feburary, 2007. And I won’t be able to attend it because of my passport woes.
The upside is, I did manage to go to two weddings — Murdza’s wedding in Savannah (with a REALLY geeky theme) and our friend Deon’s wedding held here in California.
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December 11th, 2006 at 12:17 pm
>> (with a REALLY geeky theme)
whoa - wtf- it was in a vicorian bed abd breakfast - how is this geeky?
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December 11th, 2006 at 3:04 pm
Um… Sorry, I am invoking my right to innocence on the basis that English is not my first language…
The location, decor and everything else was perfect! What I meant by “theme” was… um… Let me put it this way, did you have to explain to your guests what those equations printed on your invites and take-home candle holders meant?
Hah hah… Dude… that was a compliment coming from another geek! I wish my wedding had a little “geek factor” in it… hah hah…